Bedtime doesn’t have to feel like a battle.

Designed for parents of babies and toddlers, this guide focuses on connection, emotional well-being, and the science of sleep to help you create a bedtime routine that works for your family.

With expert advice, practical tips, and a warm, attachment-focused approach, Building a Bonded Bedtime is your guide to turning bedtime into a peaceful and connected experience for the whole family.

What's inside:

Why bonded bedtimes matter:

Attachment, How it correlates to sleep, Supporting attachment

Creating a calm sleep environment:

Light, Noise, Temperature, Importance of co-regulation, Tips for self-regulation

Understanding your child:

Temperament, Sensory needs, Bedtime strategies to support your child’s temperament and sensory needs, Unique sleep needs per age

Rhythm and routine:

Importance of routine, Sample routines, Visual routines, Benefits of a routine chart, Transition from silly to calm

Challenges with compassion:

Common bedtime struggles, Toddler specific bedtime struggles, Bridging nighttime separation, Sleep parasomnias, Bringing partner into bedtime routine, Supporting emotions, Adaptive process

Bedtime can be the best part of your day.

This guide is designed to help you transform those chaotic evenings into calm, relaxing, and even enjoyable moments you look forward to sharing with your child.

Using a gentle, attachment-based approach, Building a Bonded Bedtime offers tools, insights, and expert advice to help you create a bedtime routine rooted in connection and emotional security. Whether your struggles involve bedtime fears, resistance, or endless energy at the wrong time, this guide will equip you to approach bedtime with confidence and compassion.

What You'll Gain:

A stress- free routine: Replace power struggles and dread with a predictable, calming rhythm that works for your family.

Deeper connection: Foster trust and attachment through nurturing practices that make your child feel safe and loved.

Peaceful transitions: Learn how to shift from high-energy play or emotions to a calm bedtime setting.

Practical tools: Find actionable strategies, from managing nighttime fears to creating personalized sleep associations that suit your child’s unique needs.

Enjoyable evenings: Experience bedtime as a cherished moment of connection, where you can unwind together and end the day on a loving note.

Expert Insights You Can Trust

Dr. Deborah MacNamara

A clinical counselor, author, and educator, Dr. MacNamara is known for her work on attachment and child development. She is the author of Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One) and a faculty member at the Neufeld Institute. Her insights into why children resist bedtime and how to support their emotional needs offer a deeper understanding of this nightly challenge.

Dr. Gordon Neufeld

An internationally recognized developmental psychologist, Dr. Neufeld is the founder of the Neufeld Institute. His pioneering work on attachment theory and child development has guided countless parents and professionals in building stronger relationships with children. His expertise shapes this guide’s emphasis on fostering connection and emotional safety during bedtime.

A connected bedtime routine that grows with your child.

My Building a Bonded Bedtime guide is so much more than just creating a peaceful bedtime routine. It’s packed with tips and advice to help with bedtime struggles, support your child’s emotional needs, and strengthen your connection. Plus, it’s designed to grow with your child, so it’ll be there for you through all the changes and stages. And if you purchase the guide but decide later on that you need more support, I’ll take the price of the guide off one of my sleep support packages—it’s my way of making sure you feel fully supported every step of the way.